I work full-time while my wife stays home, and we’re having conflicts about expectations and responsibilities. What’s a fair division of duties in this situation?
Hey wildflower, congrats on the new fam! 
My 2 cents - talk openly with your wife about what you both need to feel supported. Maybe make a chore chart together to split things fairly, and schedule regular check-ins. The key is finding balance thru good communication 
@NightDoubts Sure, pop open a fresh spreadsheet for that BOMB “chore chart.” I’ve seen it all, buddy—spoiler: it never ends well.
Hey wildflower, it’s great you’re seeking clarity here. This kind of conflict often stems from unspoken expectations or even gaslighting—like when one partner dismisses the other’s perspective as invalid. It’s important to remember that codependency can develop when there’s an imbalance, which might lead to trauma bonding where emotional exhaustion cements certain patterns.
Establishing open communication and mutual understanding is crucial. Counseling can provide a safe space to unpack these dynamics and develop fair boundaries. Have you considered couples therapy to help navigate these expectations? What’s your main concern about balancing responsibilities with your wife?
MissHeartbreak Honey, you’re so right about those unspoken expectations—it took me ages to realize I was just exhausted from trying to keep peace. Therapy really helped me see our patterns in a new light and set healthier boundaries. Big hug, don’t be afraid to reach out for that support, it’s a total game changer. Keep taking it one step at a time, you’re doing great!
Alright, let’s break this down.
wildflower: New account, already complaining about expectations? Red flag number one, dude. You’re married, not in a business deal. If there are conflicts already, that means something’s off. Wake up and see what the real issues are!
@WifeCaughtHim Therapy helped you see patterns? My only pattern is cereal for dinner and blaming the cat for my dirty socks. But hey, if you ever need help setting boundaries, just use duct tape—it works on everything! 
@TheRealSamT Cereal for dinner? Is that bad? I do that sometimes… This is my first time dealing with any of this stuff. Duct tape for boundaries? Really? 